A dating rant about paying on dating sites.
A dating rant about paying on dating sites.
I figure I’d now take the opportunity to do a little dating rant based on both a paper I wrote in Creative Writing class last semester at HCCC and also based on actual experience. Okay, here we go.
Here’s the situation. You’re on a dating site looking for someone who could easily become your significant other. Then one day, he or she decides to send you a message. You go online and check your inbox to see his or her message. You go to click on the message and next thing you know, the site’s asking you for your credit card information because they want you to pay a membership fee before you can talk to the person trying to message you.
Has this ever happened to you? Well, being a man of the Internet myself, it has happened to me several times. And no folks, I did not give the site my credit card. But still, I am sort of mad about this. I mean, we’re talking about the major dating sites like Match.com, Cupid.com, eHarmony.com and countless others. Match.com takes it a step further and asks for the credit card just to see who viewed your profile. They’re the ones who advertise that they have a very high success ratio in matching people up and yet they sneak in that “free trial membership” deal just to get you to pay. This is absolute crap.
Now I know that there are free sites out there that people can go to (and I belong to a couple of them) such as OKCupid.com, DateHookup.com or you can even use the social networking sites like Facebook and other sites. I have had slightly better luck on the social networking sites than I have had on either the dating sites or offline. Although none of the potential dates I met on the social networking sites led to anything lasting, at least I didn’t have to be prompted to whip out the ol’ credit card to talk to someone.
However, I still think that paying money to talk to someone on a dating site is just too much. Probably the only valid reason I would accept as far as people paying to talk to a potential significant other is that the site is trying to curb creepers and scammers that would otherwise have a field day on the free sites. However, it also has the potential to keep out people who are sincere about finding someone and who may not even have a credit card to use to pay to talk to someone.
And in that case, I just think that’s wrong. But that’s just me.
In conclusion, I just think that if the main dating sites did away with their fees and their “free trial membership” tactics, people would actually have better luck meeting people without having to shell out the credit card to pay unnecessary money just to talk to someone who may or may not be interested in them. That way, more people would actually use the site to hopefully find the happiness they deserve without having to reach for the wallet.
The reaching for the wallet part should be reserved for the date itself.
So far the first four days of my vacation have been going pretty good. I spent most of the time cleaning and working on my book both at home and at the Historical Society. I have also been going up to HCCC as well, doing my Myspace thing as well as checking my Cupid.com account to see if anyone is interested in me. So far, no luck.
Last weekend was the Boilermaker marathon that they have every year in Utica. Someone had thought that I ran the Boilermaker this year and I told them that I wouldn’t be caught dead doing that. I’m in shape, but not in shape enough to run that. Running and me just don’t mix.
The thing is that it has been really hot the last few days. It was like being roasted like a pig on a spit. I couldn’t really do too much walking around. And of course, we also got some pretty good thunderstorms during the last couple of days. It was really hot in the library when I was trying to use Myspace. Yesterday morning while I was trying to fix my profile on Myspace, I noticed that the system went down, partly due to construction that was going on downstairs. I was able to spend some more time trying to fix my profile so that people could access it in case anyone wanted to send me a friend request. So far, I have had no luck.
Over the weekend, I got a new toy. I bought an old video camera from a guy who works at the Historical Society. He is planning to move back to South America next month and he is having a moving sale. It is from the good ol’ days when VCRs were king. There’s just one little problem with it: It needs a new microphone. The images come up pretty good, it’s just that there is no sound when I play it back on a VCR. As soon as I get the problem solved, it’s a sure bet that you will see me on YouTube pretty soon.
Right now, I am writing this from the Basloe Library. I figured that I could cut back on my emails on Yahoo by going later for today and tomorrow since I am on vacation from Wally World. Last Friday morning when I went to the library, I was frustrated when I couldn’t access Yahoo, which meant when I went to HCCC yesterday morning, I was backlogged with emails on Yahoo so I had to go through that. I had a whole slew of emails and a lot of them were junk emails anyway.
So anyway, that’s what’s been happening from the Herkimer front.
Well, today is June 28. That means that it has officially been ten years since I graduated from Red Hook High School. At first I thought I had missed it, but instead it kind of crept up on me like a thief in the night. So far I have not heard anything from anyone I went to school with on Myspace, nor have I had any friend invites from anyone from my class, nor have I heard anything about when they are planning to have the reunion. Of course, I am still not interested in going because I will probably be voted “Least Changed Since High School,” being that I still have no girlfriend and I still can’t drive, so it is probably best that I don’t go anyways.
Anyway, I have only been to HCCC twice this week. I only went on Monday and yesterday. Tuesday I had to mail something out to someone and I had to buy postage because one of the items I was mailing was a package. And I am off from there today. The main reason for this is that I have to get some much-needed work on my book done, not to mention that I won’t be up there Fridays because the library is closed on Fridays for the summer. Next week, I won’t be able to go back until Tuesday because next Monday, I am planning to see “Transformers,” which was why I took a personal day off from work, and both libraries are closed for the 4th of July so I will have a lot more time to work on my book, not to mention that I am going to be on vacation the following week. So I’ll have to wait until Tuesday to see what’s been happening on Myspace and Cupid.
I am going to be one busy bee the next couple of weeks.