One Year Closer to 40

Well, here I am. 39 years old. One year closer to 40.

However, before I get to that I should get this little bit of news out of the way first. First up, I am happy to report that I officially made my main website on WordPress into a dot-com site and just in time for the site’s tenth anniversary next month. In fact, on Valentine’s Day I was finally able to enable ads on my site because when you get a domain name on WordPress you have the option to monetize your site which is what I have wanted to do for a long time.

In other words, my website is now officially known as blackcatloner.com So now I am even closer to my dream of turning my online life into a full-fledged career.

The thing about birthdays is that the older I get, the more I start to reflect on my life as it was before I got to this point. And I feel like I made quite a bit of progress in the last few years, especially in the last few days starting with when I got my degree in the mail last week and now with me officially upgrading my site to a dot-com site. That while I feel like there’s more I could do, I feel like I am in a pretty good spot right now.

Unfortunately, I ended up coming down with a pretty bad cold for my birthday which even as I write this I am getting over. Add that to the fact that it’s been snowing pretty hard all week and you can tell that it wasn’t really a good week. But I can’t really complain though, especially with my big accomplishment this week.

I have actually started to uphold one of the resolutions I have made at the beginning of the year and that is the fact that as of a few weeks ago, I have started to quit the online dating biz by deleting my profiles on various dating sites. I started by deleting my profile on Zoosk which is a Facebook dating app three weeks ago. And last week I have officially deleted my profile on OKCupid which now leaves Plenty of Fish (which I did quit a while back but went back because I originally wanted to do a video on it as kind of a social experiment) and Match.com left. It’s a slow process because once again my relationship with online dating is the fact that it’s kind of like an itch you can’t help but scratch but it looks like they will be going soon.

And there you go, that’s pretty much what has been going on the last couple of weeks. I filmed a new episode of Blackcatloner Reviews before coming to the library today and I’ll be getting back to work on new videos again this week.

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I Will Not Pay to Online Date!

That pretty much sums it up.

That pretty much sums it up.

I figure I’d now take the opportunity to do a little dating rant based on both a paper I wrote in Creative Writing class last semester at HCCC and also based on actual experience. Okay, here we go.

Here’s the situation. You’re on a dating site looking for someone who could easily become your significant other. Then one day, he or she decides to send you a message. You go online and check your inbox to see his or her message. You go to click on the message and next thing you know, the site’s asking you for your credit card information because they want you to pay a membership fee before you can talk to the person trying to message you.

Has this ever happened to you? Well, being a man of the Internet myself, it has happened to me several times. And no folks, I did not give the site my credit card. But still, I am sort of mad about this. I mean, we’re talking about the major dating sites like Match.com, Cupid.com, eHarmony.com and countless others. Match.com takes it a step further and asks for the credit card just to see who viewed your profile. They’re the ones who advertise that they have a very high success ratio in matching people up and yet they sneak in that “free trial membership” deal just to get you to pay. This is absolute crap.

Now I know that there are free sites out there that people can go to (and I belong to a couple of them) such as OKCupid.com, DateHookup.com or you can even use the social networking sites like Facebook and other sites. I have had slightly better luck on the social networking sites than I have had on either the dating sites or offline. Although none of the potential dates I met on the social networking sites led to anything lasting, at least I didn’t have to be prompted to whip out the ol’ credit card to talk to someone.

However, I still think that paying money to talk to someone on a dating site is just too much. Probably the only valid reason I would accept as far as people paying to talk to a potential significant other is that the site is trying to curb creepers and scammers that would otherwise have a field day on the free sites. However, it also has the potential to keep out people who are sincere about finding someone and who may not even have a credit card to use to pay to talk to someone.

And in that case, I just think that’s wrong. But that’s just me.

In conclusion, I just think that if the main dating sites did away with their fees and their “free trial membership” tactics, people would actually have better luck meeting people without having to shell out the credit card to pay unnecessary money just to talk to someone who may or may not be interested in them. That way, more people would actually use the site to hopefully find the happiness they deserve without having to reach for the wallet.

The reaching for the wallet part should be reserved for the date itself.